I just...LOVE...when females waste my time. LOVE IT!  

whoisagentj 49M  
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4/22/2019 9:07 am

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I just...LOVE...when females waste my time. LOVE IT!

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Heathen_G 60M
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4/22/2019 6:44 pm

"Pushy"? No. She lost interest in you on day one. You told her you wanted to meet, and you offered a place to meet.... then she disappeared. She's not interested.

If "Real life" crowds out a 30 minute meeting, then 1- she's not interested, ..or..2- She doesn't have time to be playing online, and shouldn't be doing this.

If she was really busy, for real.....you're wasting your time trying to meet her. She will never have time . Making arrangements to do anything would be nightmare.

Never give your phone number to someone online whom you've never met.

She lives in the area.. she could have easily set aside one hour to meet with you, if she was interested.

In future endeavors , "Don't ask the woman if she wants to meet"..... Just tell her, "I want to meet you, ..meet me at Starbucks today, at 4:30 for about half an hour".....

If she doesn't agree to that, or if she doesn't counter with another place and time.... she's not interested.... nothing is going to happen. And that countered "Place and time" better be within 24 hours or 48 hours. If not... you're wasting your time.

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whoisagentj replies on 4/23/2019 6:24 am:
I think you're correct. I'm going to have to change up my approach and see how that works out. I'll let you know how it goes the next time around.

papis_baby_girl 41F  
4967 posts
4/22/2019 2:33 pm

if it was important to her, she would have made more of an effort.

You hung in there entirely way too long.

You need to decide for yourself how long to give the 'benefit of the doubt' to someone before you bail.

Me... I feel a week is more than adequate time to at least set something up. If I have to 'hunt you down' each and every time, then I'm out of there.

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whoisagentj replies on 4/23/2019 6:20 am:
I guess you're right. If it was important to her, she would have made the effort.

I'm going to use that next time. Anything more than a week I'm going to have to make it a cutoff point.

Paulxx001 62M
8436 posts
4/22/2019 12:28 pm

She sounded like she was stringing you along, waiting for an excuse to say goodbye. You gave her one when you mentioned things were "off putting", and a meeting wouldn't have to be " sexual"... Those two lines were her " out" . No worries. Plenty of fish in the sea. Just need to put out the right bait. 🌊🐠🐟🐧

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whoisagentj replies on 4/22/2019 1:21 pm:
Well, if it took 4 weeks of talking and someone was stringing you along, I still would have said the same thing. Plus I didn't want to have sex with her right away. I need to get to know someone before something like that even develops. Plus I tried to play it safe at first and keep with meeting first before anything else happens.
But you are correct, plenty of fish in the sea, however I think my bait isn't good. LOL!

bitchkitty2017 66F  
3743 posts
4/22/2019 11:06 am

lol sorry I meant curving not cloaking the two terms are similar but not alike...make sense? curving: example: I spent a month texting one woman who usually took forever to respond and when she did she would usually give short answers and rarely asked any questions,,this is Jake from NY 28 yr old.".I am not proud of how log I kept it up but it was like she did just enough to keep me going thinking I was on track with her "
Sometimes it take weeks for a response and then they always have an excuse as to why no or late response..People curve as they ghost because they not any longer want to engage but do not seem to want to give the other person time to react with confrontation...they do usually disappear ...but may return...its best at that point to disengage them ...tell them you are no longer available...


whoisagentj replies on 4/22/2019 11:54 am:
I like cloaking better. Only because it reminds me of Star Trek. LOL!

qrst50 68M
146 posts
4/22/2019 10:02 am

    Quoting dogslife2live01:
    i have a simple rule that i follow... make contact, arrange a meet before i get attached.
    if they cancel (which can happen) and set up a alternative date, then it is possible they want to meet
    if they cancel and DO NOT set an alternative date... then they are putting on their running shoes!
    as for why... i don't worry. i don't care. there must be thousands of people in your town, and thousands of reasons but only one matters
    there will be no meet
    and that i like to know before investing any emotions!
    bonne chance
correct- same here- I've gone thru just about everyone in my small town-


whoisagentj replies on 4/22/2019 10:25 am:
Ugh, you think that's bad? I live in the Chicago area. There are approximately 20 million people in a 6 county municipal area around Chicago. And out of that...I figure approximately 1 million women in my area I'm guessing are single/divorced/widowed. And I STILL can't find someone in my area.

I know it's bad when there is a lack of women in your area. But when you are surrounded by women and no one wants you? I don't know which is worse. You could or might be able to get up and move to a new town with more population. Me? I dunno, being stuck here with the my folks and my kids.

bitchkitty2017 66F  
3743 posts
4/22/2019 9:53 am

well no she originally did not ghost you she cloaked you which is the worst way and the next step up of ghosting ...real life stuff got in the way? hmmm is not being on a date site or matched up on any site not real life stuff? again she seems like someone who will do that to anyone who is real...women and men know without a doubt that they always have others to talk to that they think is better than the next...Mature women do not do that they stand their ground reply within reason and tell you whether they are attracted or not..btw cloaking is a term that means keeping you at arms length within a " cloak of darkness " , that way if someone else the person is contacting does not work out ..the cloaked person is chosen as " second " best...You were not unreasonable , she seen someone as an easy target for some reason....


whoisagentj replies on 4/22/2019 10:21 am:
Cloaking? As in Romulan or Klingon?

Sorry the nerd in me couldn't resist.

Well I learned something new today! I was cloaked by someone.

dogslife2live01 67M
559 posts
4/22/2019 9:38 am

i have a simple rule that i follow... make contact, arrange a meet before i get attached.
if they cancel (which can happen) and set up a alternative date, then it is possible they want to meet
if they cancel and DO NOT set an alternative date... then they are putting on their running shoes!
as for why... i don't worry. i don't care. there must be thousands of people in your town, and thousands of reasons but only one matters
there will be no meet
and that i like to know before investing any emotions!
bonne chance

there is a world of difference between insanity and stupidity


whoisagentj replies on 4/22/2019 10:17 am:
Well that's the problem. While I do not get emotionally invested in these people until I actually meet, the problem is I talk with them, try to arrange a meet, and then all of a sudden, they go dark and I can't get a hold of them. There is no commitment from these people to meeting at all.
If I contacted someone, I'd still be willing to meet them same day or next day or any day they feel ok with, but again, there is no commitment from these women at all.
Hell even if I met them, and during the meet, if they said no, then that's cool with me, because at least they had the guts to meet up with me and take a chance. I'd have way more respect for that person if they said no during a meet. I think the problem is too many people live in fear their life.

smartasswoman 61F  
30683 posts
4/22/2019 9:25 am

She may have been chatting with other guys on Tinder...guys who she was a bit more interested in...but she was continuing to string you along in case those fell through.

Or, she might be one of those people that just likes getting the attention of getting messages there, but is not really serious about meeting anyone.

It's frustrating I know. I've been on Tinder since November. Very few matches, even fewer conversations, and all of the conversations have sputtered to a halt before meeting anyone. I'm planning on deleting at the end of this month.


whoisagentj replies on 4/22/2019 10:09 am:
I'm thinking that's pretty much a logical reason as to why she was doing what she was doing. Which if that's the case, I was the "break glass in case of emergency" guy. I hate being that guy.

I've had a couple of conversations on Tinder, but as you said, no one seems to be serious about meeting. Which is why be on that website if you have no intentions of meeting anyone?

Well, regardless, I do wish you the best of luck finding someone. I hope it does work out and you find an amazing man that will sweep you off your feet.

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4/22/2019 9:07 am

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