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Where is the best place to meet someone for the first time?  

KougarTrish 56F
244 posts
6/4/2018 6:15 pm
Where is the best place to meet someone for the first time?

Of the following options which do (or would) you prefer when it comes to meeting someone for the first time?
A holiday dinner at my parents' house.
The parking lot of a police station.
A coffee shop (or similar) with lots of people around.
In one of our cars in a big, empty parking lot at night.
I'm MALE. My place.
I'm FEMALE. My place.
I'm MALE. Her place.
I'm FEMALE. His place.
An adult theater or an adult book/toy store.
At a swinger club.


JJJayJr 76M

6/5/2018 8:18 pm

PM Mall. Vistas Starbucks. 6:30. Any evening.


Aldemars13 53M
72 posts
6/5/2018 10:06 pm

A coffee shop but for you, where you want


sphxdiver 74M
21063 posts
6/6/2018 6:52 pm

The coffee shop works fine, as long as it's in a public arena.


Califgoldenrod16 69M  
43 posts
6/9/2018 7:13 am

As a former chat room monitor for an 80s era ISP AOHELL, we always cautioned both men and women to meet in a public place before going on to other exploits.
First, meetings should always be casual, last maybe an hour at best and have no expectations set or agreed upon in advance other than to say hello and have a cup of coffee, kind of a feeling out like an initial job interview....
NEVER drink alcohol during the meet and greet....cocktails are too easily spiked. Make sure to maintain eye contact with any food or beverages you consume. AND this should be discussed before finalizing the initial meet.,,,,ALWAYS agree that as adults if we are NOT getting the level of chemistry or "vibe" or if there are ANY red flags then either party can terminate THIS meeting, No harm, no foul.

Moving onto the date
You should always tell a close trusted friend or loved one (NOT TEENAGE KIDS!!) where you are going, who you are meeting and what time you expect to be home. Leave your dates name and phone number as well. Next set a time to check in by phone, NOT TEXT MESSAGE. Set up code words for danger or safe conditions. Not checking in within a reasonable period of time, like say 30 minutes IMMEDIATELY sets off alarms and calls to the authorities. NEVER assume otherwise! It is best to err on the side of caution than to trust an unknown person! If you agree that your date might last multiple hours such as a road trip or multiple events then ALWAYS set up multiple check-ins!
This might seem like a LOT of trouble to through for what appears to be a harmless little date, but things can turn sour quickly should you have a disagreement or they get too aggressive physically for your comfort level. Remember, NO ALWAYS MEANS NO!
I even take things a bit further. Take notes during any phone calls or emails prior to your date. Do not be afraid to get nosey. Find out who they are employed by and where they live (approximately). Do they have any family nearby? If you agree to meet at one location then drive together to another, take little precautions that might save your life! As you move from one car to another a take 2 seconds and copy their license plate number on your cell AND a piece of paper. Next, educate yourself/ Watch an online police show like LIVEPD or similar or stop by your local police station and ask an on-duty officer how they perform a traffic stop in the field. Observe how an officer approaches a car that they stopped for a violation. They ALWAYS approach from the left rear, checking the back seat area for possible lurkers. Next, they put their RIGHT-HAND thumb and palm prints on the driver side rear fender so as to leave evidence should the car you are riding in gets dumped or swapped.
And lastly, I recommend that you run a quick, low-cost (about $7.50) background check online to check for arrest records, warrants or questionable behaviors..even if they have been dismissed! ALWAYS go with your gut feelings, NOT your loins!!
Better to be safe than sorry!!


1025mws 60M  
677 posts
6/10/2018 7:02 am

Trish I would meet you almost any place to make love to you!
I picked her place, on your post.


browser2017 62M
118 posts
6/11/2018 4:20 am

Any where you would like as long as you felt safe.


DR3D9 52M
3 posts
7/8/2018 8:43 am

I picked coffee shop, Library was not an option. the Library is free has cameras security etc. you have all kinds of information on many subjects of either parties interest. there is no money expectations at the library. And I suspect we all have a little bit of a naughty do it at the library fantasy, and if things work out maybe you get lucky and find a nice quit spot to be naughty. Just dont let those snaeky kids catch you lol.


81lizard 57M/55F
118 posts
1/3/2019 9:30 am

I answered a adult bookstore because of the erotic side to it. Just think about this. I am in there because I am horny and need a release. I am purchasing a movie or toy to get off on. Add to that the excitement to find a woman that is looking for the same and bam.. to hot horny adults meet.. for the same thing. There would have to be fireworks and great sex..

What could be better in that fantasy? We have all thought about it.


MmmmThatDick 45M

3/28/2019 11:14 pm

The woman (you) should always be completely comfortable. You deserve that and as a man, that's what respect looks like. What I want really does not matter unless you are comfortable enough to allow me to weigh in.


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